Douglas’ training in somatic psychotherapy allows him to help each of you identify your core wound and how you protect and organize around it. Understanding that our “reactive patterns” are informed by our need to survive and protect our essence as children in seemingly unsafe environments gives us the awareness to begin to unravel these protective structures and operate from a place of choice in the here and now. Once your understand each others core wounds you can begin to take responsibility and have compassion for your reactive patterns and your partners.  Decreasing the charge in reactive patterns is one of my core goals in couples counseling.  Love, respect and intimacy grow when reaction diminishes.

Douglas’ training in Voice Dialogue allows him to identify primary selves or identities that we embody in relationships. Couples tend to polarize with their primary selves and create power struggles. For example, one partner may assume the role of ‘The Responsible One” based on their childhood conditioning.  The other partner will polarize or try to balance the relationship by assuming the opposite position of  “the one who is relaxed” or “the playful one”. Over time, each partner digs deeper into their role, attempting to make the relationship work. Douglas’ work allows you to experience other roles, thus giving you a feeling of relief, support and a sense of not being alone in this.  Again connection, fun diversity and intimacy happen.

Douglas’ goal in relationship counseling is always to create a safe space where both peoples needs, wants, resentments, pain, concerns, and dreams can be deeply heard, understood and embraced. Once deep listening is established, compassion and respect can flourish, and true partnership and union can happen.

$150 per hour

Individuals are asked to give a minimum of 24 hours notice if they cannot make their appointment.  Those who do not provide 24 hours notice will be billed for Douglas’ full fee.  Please respect our 24 hour cancellation policy.